The Dangers Of Ron And Hermione's Relationship That Go Hand In Hand With Disappointment
If you were a 90s kid, you would have learned a lot from 'Harry Potter's' Hermione Granger. She taught us to be unapologetic about our knowledge and confidence in our opinions. Another thing she showed us was the moral responsibility to speak up for people who don't have a voice of their own.
We all know now, of course, how the actual story ended when it came to Ron and Hermione. As a kid, we were perhaps disappointed, but as an adult with all the accumulated knowledge, we look back at their courtship and are blown away. So, without further ado, let's dive straight into their relationship and the circumstances surrounding it.
Ron's wicked ways
In case it may have evaded you, Ron Weasley spent the majority of his time with Hermione being cruel to her. From the moment he first met her, he humiliated her for trying to help him and continuously mocked her passion for school.
He accused her of lying about having a date to the Yule Ball while implying that she couldn't possibly be worthy of a partner, and then ruined the night for her with his temper. To top that off, he ignored her for weeks after learning she had kissed Viktor Krum months prior. Once again, poor Hermione was in tears. He rage-dated and used another girl to make Hermione jealous.
In his worst moments under the influence of a Horcrux, not only did he lash out, but directly accused Hermione of choosing another man over him. During their years at school, he intermittently gave her the cold-shoulder and treated her in an unfair manner that was not deserving.
Perhaps some of his behavior could be excused due to him being younger, and in the books, he seemed somewhat distracted, but there were moments where he was sweet and dear. However, considering that most of these moments were born of Ron apologizing for something he'd done, it does not make him seem any better in character.
It is rather hard to jump back on board when all we have in our minds are: "He's mean to you because he likes you!" because that is precisely how Ron Weasley skirted a lot of scrutinies he no doubt deserved. Then, in 2014 when J.K. Rowling threw a curveball, she said in an interview with Wonderland that she regretted that Ron and Hermione ended up together.
She called it "wish fulfillment" and acknowledged the following: "For reasons that have very little to do with literature and far more to do with me clinging to the plot as I first imagined it, Hermione ended up with Ron." Even Rupert Grint interrupted and said that he thought Ron and Hermione would get divorced.
The Cursed Child
Upon entering 'Harry Potter and the Cursed Child', the "eighth Harry Potter story", was Rowling's chance to correct this regret of hers. We were hoping at best for a divorce subplot where Ron and Hermione amicably settled their differences and ended up being happy without each other, or at the very least, get some implication that Ron has changed for the better.
Instead, we were introduced to a Ron, who not only failed to change his ways but clearly got drunk on the regular occasion, including his own wedding. We got to see a Ron who resented his wife's career success. He gave teenagers love potions and made suggestive comments about a young woman who was most certainly not his wife. Finally, becoming uncompromising and quick-tempered.
In conclusion, the bottom line is: If you identify with Hermione, regardless of your gender or orientation or background, then you have met many Ron Weasleys in your life. It is an archetype that repeats itself so often in fiction because it speaks to a much larger truth in toxic relationships in which one partner is significantly less secure than the other.
The Hermione in these situations is made to feel that they have to apologize for the way that they are, to subdue or arbitrate themselves, so their "Ron" feels safe. Moreover, they feel it's their obligation to "fix" their partner, as we saw with Hermione repeatedly, which was no doubt harmful to them both.
It's not only the simple and disappointing relationship dynamic between Ron and Hermione that worrying. By introducing a character we admire in a situation like this, it makes it more acceptable in the mainstream and in our own lives. For many of us, we are, at times, enormous suckers for the "hate to love" analogy, but mutual respect in that is vital. Even though they may fight, they fight fairly, and they never actually aim to hurt.
Ron, however, deliberately hurts Hermione throughout the entire series. He inherently devalues her attractiveness, intelligence, or drive in moments of insecurity. Yes, he's supportive of her some of the time, but that's the problem. Being supportive on the odd occasion certainly doesn't justify that kind of behavior.
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By allowing this kind of behavior: "he's mean to you because he likes you" cliche, isn't just harmful for its own sake, but also for serving as a gateway for further abusive behavior. To clarify, by no means are we accusing Ron Weasley of being an offensive character, nor do we think he ever could be.
When it comes to "culture", however, it does not stop men like Ron Weasley from being emotionally or verbally abusive, even "harmlessly" as young boys, that could lead to the normalization of all types of abuse in adulthood. It allows for abusive partners to justify their behavior.
This makes the partners who are abused believe that those actions, however awful, are coming from a place of "love." The escalation may indeed sound extreme, but it is all the more necessary because, for some, it is a painful reality.
Fact VS Fiction
We know that Ron Weasley and Hermione Granger are fictional characters, but the 'Harry Potter' characters have more influence over their generation than any other fictional work that has come before them. For millions of us, they shaped our worldviews, our opinions, and our sense of right versus wrong.
When we watch our young feminist hero of the 90s blossom into a woman that ended up settling for someone who emotionally tore her down countless times, it is more than disappointing, and it's dangerous. On an unconsciously level, it tells all those kids who identified with Hermione growing up to settle for their version of Ron.
It could suggest that they are deserving of mutually supportive, healthy, fulfilling relationships with a partner who loves them unselfishly. We clearly stand by what J.K. Rowling said about regretting Ron and Hermione's involvement in 2014, and ever since the release of 'Cursed Child', we've genuinely wished she had stood by it, too. Hermione Granger deserved better, and so do we.
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