Meghan Markle learned early on that joining the Royal family would come with incredible restrictions that most normal people would hate. Fortunately, it seems like the Queen has made several unheard-of concessions for Prince Harry’s wife, especially regarding some wedding traditions. However, there is something in particular that the Queen has prohibited Meghan from doing, while Kate Middleton has been able to. Let’s find out what it is!
CHRISTMAS IS ONLY WITH THE ROYAL FAMILY
Let's start out with the things she has been allowed to do. Christmas has always been a special time for the British monarchy, but a very private one indeed. Only members of the family used to be invited to the celebration, but that was until 2017. Two years ago, Meghan was only Prince Harry's fiancée, but due to the grandson's request, the Queen allowed her to attend the holiday gathering.
What's even more shocking, is that Elizabeth II broke the tradition again last year when she allowed Doria Ragland, Duchess Meghan's mother, to attend the annual Christmas celebration at Sandringham. After all, Christmas is about spending time with the family, and Meghan is Doria's only child. It was a lovely gesture from the Queen!
THE COAT OF ARMS AS A FAMILY MATTER
When a woman ties the knot with a royal, the custom dictates that a Coat of Arms is created for the spouse's family. The latter should include the names of the bride's parents, which is then given to the bride's father before the wedding. However, this did not happen in the Duchess of Sussex' case.
The Palace announced on May 25, 2018, that Meghan had her own Coat of Arms created; but, as Fashion Magazine reported, it did not include her parents' name and was bestowed directly and solely upon the Duchess. The work of art included two gold rays as a symbol of California sunshine; golden poppies, the state flower, and a blue background to represent California coast.
A DIVORCÉE DOES NOT GET A CHURCH WEDDING
The fact that a royal decides to marry a divorced person is already quite problematic and has always caused turmoil amidst the royals. In fact, the Queen did not allow her younger sister, Princess Margaret, to marry a divorcé. She didn't attend her own son's wedding to Camilla Parker, which, by the way, couldn't take place at a church.
However, with Meghan, things were far from being troubled. First of all, the ruler of England allowed the former actress to tie the knot at a church, despite being a divorcée just like Camilla and Princess Margaret's beau. As you might know, Markle was previously married to Trevor Engelson. Secondly, the Queen did attend the ceremony.
WEDDINGS CANNOT BE IN MAY
According to Daily Star, Queen Victoria, Elizabeth II's great-great-grandmother, believed that marrying in May was bad luck, as an old rhyme went, "Marry in May, and rue the day." The superstition turned into a custom of not having nuptials in the mentioned month. Nevertheless, Queen Elizabeth II permitted the wedding between Harry and Meghan to be on May 19, 2018.
THE BRIDE IS "MISS" IN THE WEDDING INVITATIONS
Well, this custom seems pretty understandable and goes along with the other one that states royals should not tie the knot with divorcées. But using "Miss" didn't appear to be suitable in Meg's case. Therefore, the royal invitations for the big day referred to her as "Ms. Meghan Markle."
NO WEDDING BANDS FOR HUBBIES
British custom insists that grooms don't wear a wedding band, as Elite Daily explained. Nevertheless, Prince Harry donned a platinum ring that he designed, thus becoming the first groom in the family history to put on one at a wedding ceremony.
GIVING THE BRIDE AWAY IS THE FATHER'S AFFAIR
This ritual is not entirely royal, as it is customary around the globe to have the bride's father to walk her down the aisle. However, it is known that Thomas Markle, Meghan's dad, backed out at the last moment due to apparent health issues, and the monarch in the UK let Prince Charles stepped in for Thomas.
THE HOST AND THE BEST MAN GIVE THE WEDDING SPEECHES
According to Harper's Bazaar, at the royal wedding in May last year, Prince William was the best man, and Prince Charles was the host. Both of the Princes were supposed to be the only ones giving speeches at the reception, following the English royal rules. Traditionally, the groom could say a few words, but the bride is always off the hook.
Despite the custom, Meghan managed to give an emotional reception speech, probably because of her "forward-thinking mindset" and "vibrant personality," said Harper's Bazaar. The same source also indicated that Meghan stated in her speech that she loved Harry with all her heart and that finding love was worth the wait.
ONLY BRITISH MUSIC AT THE ROYAL NUPTIALS
In another significant break of customs at weddings, British music should be the only type featured on Royals' big days, according to Elite Daily. However, having a bride with roots in the USA, some songs from American musicians were included. Moreover, Harry chose a German/British composer for Meghan's processional song.
Queen Elizabeth II is not a fan of garlic and has even restricted the food from the diet of her whole family, according to News Week. But, it seems that the monarch did make an exception the night that her grandson proposed to the 37-year-old American girl. According to Insider, they were roasting a chicken with loads of garlic.
EXPOSED SHOULDERS ARE A NO-NO
There are a lot of prohibitions in the royal fashion etiquette, and one of those is related to bare shoulders. However, it seems that the Queen decided to ignore this ban when it comes to the Duchess of Sussex. For her first Trooping the Color celebration last year, the new royal showed up in a shoulder-baring dress by Carolina Herrera.
WEDGE HEELS ARE BANNED
And continuing with fashion prohibitions, we can also include wedges on the list. As Style Caster explained, "Queen Elizabeth II banned wedges a long time ago simply because she doesn't like them." Therefore, Meghan ruffled a few royal feathers when she decided to put on wedge heels during her first royal tour in Australia.
NO BARE LEGS
If shoulders cannot be bare, legs certainly shouldn't either. The royal clothing protocol dictates that female members must wear stockings with dresses and skirts, commonly in nude shades. But by Insider's report, Markle was allowed to dismiss them and appear bare-legged for her first official photocall, following her engagement announcement.
A HUGE PROHIBITION
Things might seem wonderful for Meghan Markle, who is due to have her first baby any day now, but according to rumors, the Queen has absolutely forbidden the Duchess from wearing Princess Diana’s jewelry. According to Anthony Blaire, a reporter from the Daily Star, Meghan cannot access accessories from the Royal Collection.
There is more speculation that spates that Markle talked to Prince William about the restrictions imposed by the Queen as those pieces have been iconic in fashion for many years. Furthermore, the reports are surprised by this news because the Duchess of Cambridge, Kate Middleton, has been allowed to use many gems owned by Elizabeth II and Princess Diana in the past.
Meghan has actually used some jewels from the Royal Collection such as the Queen Mary Princess Bandeau for her wedding day, but it seems that her behavior lately has led to the Queen to prohibit her use of Princess Diana’s precious ornaments. This might aggravate tensions between Princes William and Harry.
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An inside source claims, “Aspects of Meghan’s behavior – including before the royal wedding – caused resentment with forces within Buckingham Palace. This is a surprising situation that has been going on behind the scenes over the past few months and has caused tension and upset, especially for Harry.” Furthermore, the Queen and several advisers always get to decide who uses pieces from the collection.
There is nothing the Duchess of Sussex can do if the Queen has spoken against it.
“The Queen herself was not impressed with some of Meghan’s demands, especially as a new member of the royal family. As a result, Buckingham Palace has decided that not all items from the Queen’s royal collection will be opened up to Meghan,”
the source continued.
This is a decision that could fuel more stories about Meghan and Kate’s alleged dispute. However, it is important to remember that Kate Middleton is higher up in the line of succession than Markle. That entitles her to more benefits. After all, she will be Queen Consort when Prince William takes the throne.
The ban was first reported by the British media site, The Sun, but other sources are claiming that it might not be true at all. Furthermore, Prince Harry is apparently really angry about the fake news because Meghan has used royal accessories before.
Only time will tell if the stories are true or not. Let us know what you think about the allowances and the rumored prohibition the Queen made for Meghan. If you liked this article, share it with your friends who cannot get enough of the former actress. See you next time!
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