Duggar Family Might Be Loosening up Their Courtship Rules; Fans Spot the Changes

Most parents have dreams and expectations when it comes to their children, and some can be pretty strict, with rules and regulations for every aspect of their lives - especially where dating is concerned. 

The devout Baptist Duggar family embodies this to a T - and with 19 children, that's no easy task! Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar might be relaxing their rules about courtship, though. But what changed? Why now? Let's find out!

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What Makes Them Different From Other American Families? 

People around the world met the Duggars when a show based on their family life aired on TLC in 2008. On top of having 19 kids, the couple also has 12 grandchildren!

One of the most prominent beliefs the family has is that a woman should have as many children as God will give her, in order to spread Christian values around the globe.

That sounds quite shocking, do you agree? Well, if you have been watching TLC's show Counting On, you're already familiar with the Duggar family's conservative values and fundamental Christian faith.

One of the most controversial things about this family is their attitude towards women. Just like many religions and cultures prefer women and men to dress modestly and refrain from exposing sensitive body parts, so do the Duggars.

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Duggar women are believed to be a source of temptation. One of the ways they control this, is in the way they dress. The only fashion Duggar women know is that of long skirts.

Women are compelled to abide by these rules wherever they go. Their religious culture says wives must obey their husbands in every situation. On no account may women be rude or argue with their husbands.

To top it off, whenever the husband is ready to be intimate with his wife, the woman must abide - even if she is tired. Michelle Duggar teaches her daughters to always be available when their husbands call.

But wait, that's not all. Shockingly, the Duggar daughters are also confined to the home until they receive permission from their father to get married. Then their husbands become the rule-makers.

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In addition to submitting to their husbands, the Duggar women also have to obey their male siblings. The Duggars prefer to home-school their children, and the girls are not allowed to go to college.

The role of the woman is to simply cook, clean, make and take care of babies. The conservative parents keep their kids away from education, claiming that university professors brainwash children.

They also aren't allowed contact with unmarried mothers. In addition, they partake in a process called chaperoned courtship. It's dating with one purpose: courtship is a path toward marriage, and it comes with some serious rules of its own.

Jill Duggar explained in 2014 on 19 Kids & Counting that "the main difference between courting and dating is setting boundaries for yourself so that you don't cross over those."

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First, the potential suitor must approach Jim Bob to express his interest in the girl. Then, they can spend time together as long as at least one chaperone is supervising.

They can never be alone. Michelle said that things get heated as a couple grows closer; therefore, there is no hand-holding, only "godly side hugs," and absolutely no kissing or even hugging. 

Even after couples are engaged, they are not yet allowed to kiss. They can hold hands at that stage, though! That's pretty much it. All other physical contact is reserved for their wedding day.

As Michelle and Jim Bob's eldest child, Josh was the first to experience the rules of courtship. When he was courting Anna, they didn't spend a second by themselves. Sadly, things did not work out between them.

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Jessa and Ben Seewald followed similar rules during their courtship. Hence, they shared their first kiss only after they became husband and wife. So they know how does it feel. 

However, the Duggar family acknowledged that their rules aren't always followed. Joy-Anna Duggar and her then-fiancé were caught on camera having a frontal hug instead of a side one, by Romper's report.

Jill Duggar had a similar experience with her now-husband Derick Dillard when they saw each other after being apart for two months, and Jana Duggar admitted to having had some "connections" in the past.

According to one of the articles by CheatSheet, it appears that the Duggar patriarch is relaxing the ultra-strict approach to relationships. But what is the reason behind this tweak? Let's find that out. 

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According to forum users at Previously.tv, it could be because the rules don't work. After all, the purpose of courtship is to find the person with whom they'll spend the rest of their lives.

It's pretty obvios that they also do not allow divorce. But, for a family that's so traditional and marriage-oriented, the Duggars aren't strangers to failed relationships, and you probably know why. 

Josiah Duggar got married to Lauren Swanson, but, this wasn't his first rodeo. In fact, in 2015, Josiah first courted Marjorie Jackson. That was before he tied the knot with Swanson.

Close friends of the Duggars, the Bates family also experienced courtship failure when Nathan Bates ended a courtship with his York City-based friend. Zach Bates also had a previous courtship before meeting his current wife. 

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Do The Duggar Kids Ever Break Rules?

Of course, there's no such thing as a perfect family, and it seems as though even the Duggars (gasp!) might be breaking a few rules! Keep reading to find out what we're talking about.

For one, John and Abbie were seen alone on many occasions, and, according to TV Showcase, were also more affectionate than the older siblings. This obviously goes against the Duggars' 'sacred' book of relationship rules.

In fact, they even hugged and held hands before tying the knot, although they saved their first kiss for their big day. They might set a precedent for those who come behind them.

It's possible Jedidiah, Jason, Jackson, or Jeremiah might experience a bit more freedom than their elder siblings. Some of the Duggar women also revealed that they took birth control pills to keep them from getting pregnant unexpectedly.

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It’s not surprising that body piercing is frowned upon, so it was shocking when Jill Duggar showed up to an event wearing a nose ring. It's said she pierced her nose to help reduce the pain of childbirth.

Jinger, Jessa, Jill, Joy-Anna, and Jana have been seen wearing pants in public. Josiah Duggar and his now-wife Lauren Swanson video-chatted unsupervised, AND he posted it to his own Instagram account, also a no-no. 

What are your thoughts on the way the Duggar family works in the matters of the heart? What would you change in the way couples meet, get to know each other, and marry?

Share your thoughts on the comment section and stay tuned for more articles about our favorite TV shows! We'd love to hear your thoughts. And make sure to stay tuned for more interesting updates about your favorite celebs.

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Source: TV Showcase, InTouch Weekly, Cheat Sheet

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