Gwyneth Paltrow: 17 Strict Rules Her Kids Follow

Have you ever wondered what kind of parents our favorite celebrities are? Gwyneth Paltrow, for example, is a lifestyle guru with somewhat controversial views on parenting. Is she a strict mom? Dig into the article to find out which rules her kids have to follow.


17. Traveling is a priority

Gwyneth feels that exposing her children to different cultures will allow them to grow and be more understanding of themselves. From a young age, her children have been afforded the opportunity to move to different countries and she hopes it will inspire them to reinvent themselves.

Gwyneth Paltrow/Photo:Getty Images

Gwyneth Paltrow/Photo:Getty Images


Paltrow has stated that she would like for her kids to experience somewhere other than Los Angeles in their teen years and would prefer them to be global citizens who have embraced a variety of cultures and ways of living.

"It’s part of my parenting philosophy that children should get the opportunity to reinvent themselves at a few points in their childhood to see where their strengths and weaknesses lie and to experience living in different cultures. It’s an experiment.”


16. No attending summer camp

A few years back, the actress revealed to Jimmy Kimmel that she would never let her kids attend summer camp; she joked that she's too fond of them to actually subject them to it. Gwyneth also shared that her parents would send her to summer camp for 8 weeks at a time. 

Although the actress enjoyed all the fun activities from theater to writing and water skiing, she did admit that the freedom that children get at summer camp has made her very reluctant to send her kids off to experience the wonders of being away from their parents.

Gwyneth Paltrow/Photo:Getty Images

Gwyneth Paltrow/Photo:Getty Images


15. No posting pictures of Apple without her consent

Gwyneth shared a photo of her daughter, Apple, on Instagram and she was not pleased. The actress shared a snap of herself and her daughter on a skiing trip and Apple's face was masked with goggles. The 14-year-old at the time commented on the post stating

“Mom we have discussed this. You may not post anything without my consent.” 

Gwyneth Paltrow/Photo:Getty Images

Gwyneth Paltrow/Photo:Getty Images


Gwyneth simply responded:  “You can’t even see your face!” Apple's comment was deleted, however, it inspired a conversation about whether parents should share their children's lives on social media. Some argued that Apple was wrong for publicly confronting her mother on the mishap while others think that she has a right to speak out. 

Either way, Apple values her privacy, and that can be seen through her preference for keeping her Instagram account private. We're also pretty sure that Gwyneth respects her daughter's wishes as Apple makes very rare appearances on her Instagram account.


14. She's not strict about lockdown regulations

Gwyneth Paltrow's eldest daughter Apple recently celebrated her 16th birthday and did not adhere to any social distancing rule. To commemorate the special day, the award-winning actress invited Apple's friends to pay her a visit and the actress seems to be cool about social distancing regulations.


Surprisingly, instead of a drive-by visit, the kids were photographed dropping off gifts and hugging the birthday girl. No masks were in sight. Gwyneth took to Instagram to wish her daughter a heartfelt happy 16th birthday message. With reference to the pandemic, the star said:

“I’m sorry you are having this particular birthday during these circumstances, but as always with you, you find the best in everything.”

Gwyneth Paltrow attending a red carpet event/Photo:Getty Images

Gwyneth Paltrow attending a red carpet event/Photo:Getty Images


13. Watching TV in French or Spanish only

In 2013 Gwyneth Paltrow made headlines when it was reported that she urged her daughter Apple, who was 9 at the time, and son Moses, who was 7, to speak only in Spanish. The actress learned Spanish herself when she was a teenager, so she was trying to make sure both her kids grow up bilingual.


She hired international nannies for Apple and Moses, who could teach them different languages. In an interview with Harper’s Bazaar back in 2012 Gwyneth shared this about their family nanny:

"She's French, so she's teaching them French, and their previous nanny was Spanish, so they're fluent in Spanish."

Later Paltrow admitted that her children were allowed to watch TV in Spanish and French only. Moreover, she used to buy cartoons in French for them. You have to admit, it's quite a smart move to get the kids to learn a foreign language!


12. Having perfect English accents

Back in 2010 Gwyneth Paltrow and her then-husband, Coldplay frontman Chris Martin, were raising their kids between London and New York. They went to school in London and then came back to the US for holidays and summers. And the surprising result of this transatlantic living was that their accents became “bizarre”, as Gwyneth put it.

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"Weirdly my son is half Brooklyn and half English, and my daughter is completely American with me at home but completely British at school."

Apple's accent could even change in the middle of a conversation, and both Moses and Apple were using slang from both countries. So it’s totally natural that Paltrow wanted her kids to speak in a less odd manner. Preferably in a posh British accent, just like the characters from Downton Abbey, as Gwyneth reportedly adored the show.


11. Cutting down on carbs

Known for her own strict eating and exercising rules, in 2013 Gwyneth revealed that she was determined to make her kitchen a pasta, bread, and rice-free zone for the children as well. She was certain that all of her family were intolerant of gluten, that’s why Paltrow ruled out carbohydrates from their diet.


However, later the lifestyle guru loosened up this rule – probably because, as she admitted, her family often had “that specific hunger that comes with avoiding carbs.”

And a couple of years later Gwyneth proudly posted some home-made pasta she cooked while she was in Rome. In an interview with ‘You’ magazine the actress explained that, although she was still concerned about the dangers of processed and genetically modified food, she didn’t believe in ruling out any kind of food.

“You can’t tell a kid “no Coke, no cake”. It is not realistic.” – Paltrow said. - “It’s about trying to augment that with something healthy.”

So Gwyneth makes sure that Apple and Moses always have plenty of healthy snacks at home, like fresh fruit, raw nuts, carrots, and hummus. 

Nicholas Barbaros / Unsplash

Nicholas Barbaros / Unsplash


10. Having Dessert Before Bed

Paltrow admits that while she tried to bring her children up on "the right foods", “the lure of Oreos and cotton candy outweighed the lure of carrots with hummus” as Apple and Moses grew older. Gwyneth once wrote on her ‘Goop’ blog that she’s totally fine with her kids having a sweet treat before bed.


But with one exception, namely – as long as they eat healthy foods during the rest of the day. After all, it’s important to treat yourself every once in a while! Oreos became a family favorite, so the strict rules had to be relaxed a bit.

"That's all a part of childhood and I love Oreos too.” – explained the actress.

Obsessing over what your kids are eating is not a good idea, after all.


9. Playing video games

It seems like the strict rule about TV doesn’t apply to video games. Surprisingly, Paltrow’s children got their first game console when they were 7 and 5. The actress soon regretted letting them have it, though, as she couldn’t get them to stop!


Last year Gwyneth admitted that she had ongoing negotiations with her then 13-year-old son over his video screen time. We have a Fortnite situation at my house,' she confessed. Well, now we know that Moses behaves just like many other teenage boys, and Paltrow has problems handling his screen time like any other mom.


8. Posting no photos on social media 

Apple was the last one of her friends to get a phone. Sounds like Paltrow is very strict about social media, right? But in fact, Apple was only 12 at the time, and since then she’s been a pretty active user. Of course, all of her pages are private, but, according to Paltrow, she texts like crazy. Still, the Goop founder is very controlling about photos of Apple and Moses.

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She doesn’t allow any public pictures of them and posts their photos on Twitter and Instagram extremely rarely. The usual exceptions to this rule are their birthdays. At the beginning of April, she posted several photos of her son Moses, who turned 14. And quite recently – photos of Apple, who is 16 already.


7. Going to private school

Apple Martin attends the elite Harvard-Westlake School in Los Angeles, which has an impeccable reputation of sending students to top colleges. In 2017 there was a scandal involving the students of this school making racial and homophobic slurs on social media. However, it didn’t convince Gwyneth Paltrow that her daughter should switch schools, as her father Chris Martin suggested.


He wanted Apple to go to a public school in Santa Monica with an excellent music program instead of Harvard-Westlake, because his daughter is a very talented musician, just like him. Paltrow was reportedly “outraged and disgusted” by the behavior of the students, but apparently trusted the school’s president, who promised to properly handle the situation.


6. Skipping classes sometimes

When Apple was six, her mother allowed her to pretend she was sick so that they could spend some time out together. Gwyneth and Apple went out to lunch and then to the beauty salon. But why skip classes and not wait until the weekend?