How Jada Pinkett Handled Her Son Jaden’s Life Choices

Jada Pinkett came forward about how she handled her son Jaden’s life decisions. Even though it was a difficult transition, Jada kept true to her word and the independence she cultivated in her children, thus allowing him to make his own choices. Find out how she did that!

Image Credits: Getty Images / Tommaso Boddi | Actors Jaden Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith attend the Umami Burger x Jaden Smith Artist Series Launch Event at The Grove on October 11, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Tommaso Boddi | Actors Jaden Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith attend the Umami Burger x Jaden Smith Artist Series Launch Event at The Grove on October 11, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.


THE CONTROVERSY WITHIN THE FAMILY: JADEN MOVES OUT

During a conversation, Jada admitted that it was time for Jaden to leave the nest. “I remember thinking to myself, as devastated as I was, I was like, ‘He’s right. The time is now; he’s 15. It’s time for him to leave the house.’”, she said.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Paul Archuleta | Actress Jada Pinkett Smith attends the 2nd Annual Diamond Ball at The Barker Hanger on December 10, 2015 in Santa Monica, California.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Paul Archuleta | Actress Jada Pinkett Smith attends the 2nd Annual Diamond Ball at The Barker Hanger on December 10, 2015 in Santa Monica, California.

However, not everyone in the family shared her feelings and beliefs. Her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Jones, was adamantly against Jaden’s independence as she believed he was too young to be on his own. The grandmother admitted that “I would have never agreed to that.” However, this was not Adrienne’s decision to make, and Jada came forward respecting her son’s choice.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jason Mendez | Adrienne Banfield-Jones and Jada Pinkett Smith on October 23, 2018 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jason Mendez | Adrienne Banfield-Jones and Jada Pinkett Smith on October 23, 2018 in New York City.


JADEN’S DECISION DIDN’T COME AS A SURPRISE TO THE PARENTS

Jada commented that Will and she had a feeling about their son’s future decision. “I knew. I told Will – when Jaden was smaller – I said, ‘We’ll be lucky to keep him in the house until he’s 16.’ Because he was so mature. He was making films… he could really manage his own life.”, the mother admitted.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Sandy Young | Hosts Jade Pinkett Smith (2nd L) and Will Smith with children Jaden Smith (L) and Willow Smith (R) onstage during the Nobel Peace Prize Concert at Oslo Spektrum on December 11, 2009 in Oslo, Norway. Tonight's Nobel Peace Prize Concert is hosted by Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith and honours this year's Nobel Peace Prize winner US President Barack Obama.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Sandy Young | Hosts Jade Pinkett Smith (2nd L) and Will Smith with children Jaden Smith (L) and Willow Smith (R) onstage during the Nobel Peace Prize Concert at Oslo Spektrum on December 11, 2009 in Oslo, Norway. Tonight's Nobel Peace Prize Concert is hosted by Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith and honours this year's Nobel Peace Prize winner US President Barack Obama.

Jaden was not only a rebel when it comes to his fashion style, but he also inherited his mom’s independence. However, his personality was not the only reason why Jada knew that her son would eventually ask to leave home. The family’s celebrity status had put a lot of pressure on the young boy, so she understood his reasons.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jesse Grant | Jada Pinkett Smith (L) and Will Smith attend the World Premiere of Disney’s "Aladdin" at the El Capitan Theater in Hollywood CA on May 21, 2019, in the culmination of the film’s Magic Carpet World Tour with stops in Paris, London, Berlin, Tokyo, Mexico City and Amman, Jordan.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jesse Grant | Jada Pinkett Smith (L) and Will Smith attend the World Premiere of Disney’s "Aladdin" at the El Capitan Theater in Hollywood CA on May 21, 2019, in the culmination of the film’s Magic Carpet World Tour with stops in Paris, London, Berlin, Tokyo, Mexico City and Amman, Jordan.


THIS A-LIST LIFESTYLE IS LIKE A BUBBLE

Jada was humble enough to understand that being born into stardom is not easy. She mentioned that “Being in this lifestyle – in this world – is a bubble.  He wanted out, and I understood that because I didn’t have the bubble. And I knew how much he would gain from having his freedom outside of that bubble".

Image Credits: Getty Images / Michael Loccisano | Actress Jada Pinkett Smith visits the Build Series to discuss the movie "Girls Trip" at Build Studio on July 17, 2017 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Michael Loccisano | Actress Jada Pinkett Smith visits the Build Series to discuss the movie "Girls Trip" at Build Studio on July 17, 2017 in New York City.

But the mother also had other reasons to let her boy go. She mentioned that “I knew that the sooner I let him go, the faster he was going to come back.” And as it is known, a mother always knows best. Jada was right about this and eventually Jaden did move back to the neighborhood.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Stephen Lovekin | (L-R) Jaden Smith, Willow Smith, Will Smith, Jada Pinkett Smith and Trey Smith attend the "After Earth" premiere at Ziegfeld Theater on May 29, 2013 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Stephen Lovekin | (L-R) Jaden Smith, Willow Smith, Will Smith, Jada Pinkett Smith and Trey Smith attend the "After Earth" premiere at Ziegfeld Theater on May 29, 2013 in New York City.


JADEN’S EXPERIENCE OUTSIDE OF THE BUBBLE

During an interview at the Red Table Talk, Jaden came forward about his experience in the real world. Having commented that leaving home at a young age “[...] just makes you appreciate being at home, being with your parents, spending quality time with your family.”

Image Credits: Getty Images / Stuart C. Wilson | Jaden Smith poses in the winners room after winning the New Fashion Icon Award at The Fashion Awards 2016 at Royal Albert Hall on December 5, 2016 in London, England.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Stuart C. Wilson | Jaden Smith poses in the winners room after winning the New Fashion Icon Award at The Fashion Awards 2016 at Royal Albert Hall on December 5, 2016 in London, England.

The young star, who was 19 years old at the time of the interview, went on to add that “You get out into the world and you just understand things.” However, this experience did not only allow Jaden to understand how it is to be outside of the Hollywood bubble but also to become closer to himself.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Nicholas Hunt | Jaden Smith attends the Volez, Voguez, Voyagez - Louis Vuitton Exhibition Opening on October 26, 2017 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Nicholas Hunt | Jaden Smith attends the Volez, Voguez, Voyagez - Louis Vuitton Exhibition Opening on October 26, 2017 in New York City.


COMING FORWARD AS A FASHION INNOVATOR

Jaden’s life choices have been making headlines since he was just a teenager and even now, as a 22-year-old celebrity, he keeps turning heads and making it to the tabloids. Making the bold choice of wearing skirts, journalists were very interested in finding out how the family reacted.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Claudio Lavenia | Jaden Smith, is seen in the streets of Paris before the Louis Vuitton show during Paris Fashion Week Womenswear Fall/Winter 2018/2019 on March 6, 2018 in Paris, France.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Claudio Lavenia | Jaden Smith, is seen in the streets of Paris before the Louis Vuitton show during Paris Fashion Week Womenswear Fall/Winter 2018/2019 on March 6, 2018 in Paris, France.

Jada Smith admitted on an episode of The Red Table Talk that “I give Jaden props, being a black young man –– and the son of like an über masculine hip-hop star.” Commenting on his bravery to come out of the box of gendered fashion, Jada explained how the parents handled the situation.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jon Kopaloff / FilmMagic | Actor Jaden Smith arrives at the Los Angeles Premiere "Justin Bieber's Believe" at Regal Cinemas L.A. Live on December 18, 2013 in Los Angeles, California.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jon Kopaloff / FilmMagic | Actor Jaden Smith arrives at the Los Angeles Premiere "Justin Bieber's Believe" at Regal Cinemas L.A. Live on December 18, 2013 in Los Angeles, California.


WILL SMITH WAS NOT ALWAYS ON THEIR CHILDREN’S SIDE

There have been many occasions where Will Smith had some trouble accepting Willow and Jaden’s independence. One of those was when Jaden was invited to be part of a Louis Vuitton campaign, where he was asked to wear skits. Jada took her son’s side, saying “Well, you know what, Will? This is what he wants. This is his expression.”

Image Credits: Getty Images / Kevin Winter | Actors Will Smith, son Jaden Smith and his wife Jada Pinkett Smith pose at the after party for the premiere of Warner Bros. Pictures' "Focus" at the W Hotel on February 24, 2015 in Los Angeles, California.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Kevin Winter | Actors Will Smith, son Jaden Smith and his wife Jada Pinkett Smith pose at the after party for the premiere of Warner Bros. Pictures' "Focus" at the W Hotel on February 24, 2015 in Los Angeles, California.

Jada admitted that Will “[...] was afraid, it was uncomfortable. Because you know, as dads, expectations ... 'macho, macho,' you know?". Willow mentioned that the father was also against her shaving her head, “He told me he didn’t want me to cut my hair. He was like, ‘Don’t do it. All your femininity!’ As if my femininity was in my hair."

Image Credits: Getty Images / Mike Coppola | Actress/singer Willow Smith and actor Will Smith attend the "Madagascar 3: Europe's Most Wanted" New York Premier at Ziegfeld Theatre on June 7, 2012 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Mike Coppola | Actress/singer Willow Smith and actor Will Smith attend the "Madagascar 3: Europe's Most Wanted" New York Premier at Ziegfeld Theatre on June 7, 2012 in New York City.


A SUPER PROTECTIVE FATHER

During the same talk, Jada explained that Will was only interested in safeguarding his kids from the possible negative comments from the media. The mother mentioned that "Willow was nine ...and it's his little girl, and 'I want you to stay a little girl as long as I can,'” explaining Will’s thought process.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Michael Kovac | Will Smith (L) and Jaden Smith attend the LA Premiere of Netflix Films 'BRIGHT' on December 13, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Michael Kovac | Will Smith (L) and Jaden Smith attend the LA Premiere of Netflix Films 'BRIGHT' on December 13, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

“Jaden and Willow have always been different," Jada confessed. "They were born that way. A lot of people think that it came from my rearing, but no, it just so happened that that’s how they came into the world and I had to get in order. I had to be open enough to receive it.”

Image Credits: Getty Images / Paras Griffin | Actress Jada Pinkett Smith speaks onstage at Careers In Entertainment Tour - Atlanta at Morehouse College on October 20, 2017 in Atlanta, Georgia.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Paras Griffin | Actress Jada Pinkett Smith speaks onstage at Careers In Entertainment Tour - Atlanta at Morehouse College on October 20, 2017 in Atlanta, Georgia.


THE SUPPORT FROM THE PARENTS

Jada went on to say that “I remember Will calling me and being like, ‘Have you talked about this Jaden and him wearing a skirt?’ And I said, ‘Yeah, I have. He’s pretty happy about it.'” From a young age, Jaden had been independent and a rebel, so the parents knew that their best option was to support him.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Dimitrios Kambouris | Willow Smith (L) and Jaden Smith attend the "Manus x Machina: Fashion In An Age Of Technology" Costume Institute Gala at Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 2, 2016 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Dimitrios Kambouris | Willow Smith (L) and Jaden Smith attend the "Manus x Machina: Fashion In An Age Of Technology" Costume Institute Gala at Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 2, 2016 in New York City.

During the same talk, Jaden also opened up about his decision to wear skirts. He mentioned that “I wore the skirts so I could look fly. That’s why I wore the skirts, so everyone would say, ‘He’s an innovator. His head’s in a different place.’” The rapper did become known as a fashion icon, so his plan worked out!

Image Credits: Getty Images / Pascal Le Segretain | Jaden Smith attends the Louis Vuitton show as part of the Paris Fashion Week Womenswear Fall/Winter 2017/2018 on March 7, 2017 in Paris, France.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Pascal Le Segretain | Jaden Smith attends the Louis Vuitton show as part of the Paris Fashion Week Womenswear Fall/Winter 2017/2018 on March 7, 2017 in Paris, France.


AN INTERVENTION: WILL AND JADA TAKE JADEN’S HEALTH INTO THEIR HANDS

"Will and I had a bit of an intervention with Jaden because he's a vegan now, but we realized he wasn't getting enough protein," Jada said on one episode of the Red Table Talk. "So he was wasting away. He just looked drained, he was just depleted. He wasn't getting the nutrients."

Image Credits: Getty Images / Frazer Harrison | Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith attend Paramount Pictures' Premiere Of "Gemini Man" on October 06, 2019 in Hollywood, California.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Frazer Harrison | Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith attend Paramount Pictures' Premiere Of "Gemini Man" on October 06, 2019 in Hollywood, California.

Will Smith went on to add that "He had the dark circles under his eyes, there was even a little grayness to his skin. And we got really nervous.” Jaden, who also admitted he wasn’t taking his diet seriously, said "I was just eating like two meals a day. And maybe one, maybe just that one big meal [...]'"

Image Credits: Getty Images / Pascal Le Segretain | Jaden Smith and Willow Smith attend the Louis Vuitton show as part of the Paris Fashion Week Womenswear Fall/Winter 2019/2020 on March 05, 2019 in Paris, France.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Pascal Le Segretain | Jaden Smith and Willow Smith attend the Louis Vuitton show as part of the Paris Fashion Week Womenswear Fall/Winter 2019/2020 on March 05, 2019 in Paris, France.


NAUSEA AND DIZZY SPELLS: WHY JADEN CHANGED HIS EATING HABITS

Continuing about his vegan diet, Jaden commented that "I was not doing good, I wasn't looking good, I wasn't feeling good, I wasn't sleeping." During a work project in Australia, the rapper and model ended up needing medical assistance. His sister, Willow, confessed that "That scared me, I was about to hop on the plane to Australia."

Image Credits: Getty Images / Stephen Lovekin / FilmMagic | Willow Smith and Jaden Smith attend the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards at the Barclays Center on August 25, 2013 in the Brooklyn borough of New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Stephen Lovekin / FilmMagic | Willow Smith and Jaden Smith attend the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards at the Barclays Center on August 25, 2013 in the Brooklyn borough of New York City.

Being an A-List family is not easy, and Jada admitted the whole family has at times been concerned about appearance over health, saying that "We all have issues with food in this family.” The Smiths are now on a new healthy lifestyle journey with the help of nutritionists, and even want to encourage others to take care of their health.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Dia Dipasupil | Actress Jada Pinkett Smith attends the Feature Film Jury Orientation Breakfast during the 2018 Sundance Film Festival at Cafe Terigo on January 19, 2018 in Park City, Utah.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Dia Dipasupil | Actress Jada Pinkett Smith attends the Feature Film Jury Orientation Breakfast during the 2018 Sundance Film Festival at Cafe Terigo on January 19, 2018 in Park City, Utah.


THE SHANE DAWSON SCANDAL

An old video from the controversial YouTuber Shane Dawson resurfaced on the interview earlier this summer, and the Smiths were not happy about it. Depicting a young Willow Smith, Shane Dawson made inappropriate gestures during the video, and the backlash ensued. Jada and Jaden took on to social media to chastise Dawson.

Image Credits: Getty Images / John Lamparski / WireImage |  Shane Dawson attends BookCon 2015 at Javits Center on May 31, 2015 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / John Lamparski / WireImage | Shane Dawson attends BookCon 2015 at Javits Center on May 31, 2015 in New York City.

The YouTuber later came up with a 20-minute long apology video, saying that "I have done a lot of things in my past that I hate, that I wish I could make go away, that I tried to make go away by deleting videos, or un-tagging my Instagram, literally doing whatever I can to pretend those things didn't happen." 

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jun Sato / WireImage | Willow Smith attends the CHANEL Metiers D'art Collection Paris Cosmopolite show at the Tsunamachi Mitsui Club on May 31, 2017 in Tokyo, Japan.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Jun Sato / WireImage | Willow Smith attends the CHANEL Metiers D'art Collection Paris Cosmopolite show at the Tsunamachi Mitsui Club on May 31, 2017 in Tokyo, Japan.


JADA SMITH COMMENTS ON JADEN’S LOVE LIFE

Jada admitted that when it comes to her child’s love affairs, she prefers to go with the flow. That doesn’t mean she likes all of the people her kids bring to their lives. She commented “There've been a few -- I've been concerned," mostly referring to Jaden’s love life. "Actually, Willow, her choices have been spectacular, in all honesty.", she said.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Nicholas Hunt | Sarah Snyder (R) and actor Jaden Smith attend the Hood By Air Fall 2016 fashion show during New York Fashion Week: The Shows at The Arc, Skylight at Moynihan Station on February 14, 2016 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Nicholas Hunt | Sarah Snyder (R) and actor Jaden Smith attend the Hood By Air Fall 2016 fashion show during New York Fashion Week: The Shows at The Arc, Skylight at Moynihan Station on February 14, 2016 in New York City.

She went on to add that "You got to go with the flow, your kids aren’t always going to date people that you love, but I’ve learned that you really have to just be there and support, because [if you don’t] that can create a conflict that you can’t get around.”

Image Credits: Getty Images / David Livingston | Actor Will Smith (L) and actress Jada Pinkett Smith attend the 47th NAACP Image Awards presented by TV One at Pasadena Civic Auditorium on February 5, 2016 in Pasadena, California.

Image Credits: Getty Images / David Livingston | Actor Will Smith (L) and actress Jada Pinkett Smith attend the 47th NAACP Image Awards presented by TV One at Pasadena Civic Auditorium on February 5, 2016 in Pasadena, California.


THE CHILDREN’S CONFESSION ON HOW THEIR PARENTS HANDLED THEIR SUCCESS

During a conversation at the Red Table Talk, the Smith children confessed that they were not happy with the decisions their parents made when they were children. Fighting tears, Jada said "You know what? I think parents have to give themselves much more forgiveness."

Image Credits: Getty Images / Kevin Winter | Actor Will Smith, son Trey, actress Jada Pinkett Smith, daughter Willow and son/actor Jaden Smith arrive at the World Premiere of Columbia Pictures' "The Pursuit of Happyness" at the Mann Village Theatre and Mann Bruin Theatre on December 7, 2006 in Westwood, California.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Kevin Winter | Actor Will Smith, son Trey, actress Jada Pinkett Smith, daughter Willow and son/actor Jaden Smith arrive at the World Premiere of Columbia Pictures' "The Pursuit of Happyness" at the Mann Village Theatre and Mann Bruin Theatre on December 7, 2006 in Westwood, California.

"When you become a parent, you have these huge ideals, even for yourself, because we all are coming into parenting with our own childhood traumas. And you're hoping you can fix all that through your own rearing of your children, and you can't.” she went on to add, mentioning that she did what she knew.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Dimitrios Kambouris / WireImage | Jaden Smith, Willow Smith, Will Smith, Jada Pinkett Smith and Trey Smith attend the "After Earth" premiere at Ziegfeld Theater on May 29, 2013 in New York City.

Image Credits: Getty Images / Dimitrios Kambouris / WireImage | Jaden Smith, Willow Smith, Will Smith, Jada Pinkett Smith and Trey Smith attend the "After Earth" premiere at Ziegfeld Theater on May 29, 2013 in New York City.

The Smith family has been involved in many controversies and is known for how independent and strong-minded their children are. In an industry where being unique is an advantage, Jaden and Willow have surely set their grounds and became their own personalities. Keep reading to find out more about how celebrity parents handle their children growing up!

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